Model-turned-actor Arjan Bajwa, whose claim to fame is the hot-hot-hot love-making scene he has done with Priyanka Chopra in Fashion, talks about love, sex and everything in between

were you comfortable shooting intimate scenes with Priyanka Chopra in Fashion?

Initially, no. I felt jittery because I hadn’t shot such a scene earlier. Also, because I knew it was Priyanka and because I had to enact them in front of so many people. But I guess everything fell into place once the director and Priyanka made me comfortable. Despite her stature, she is very humble, very co-operative. Hats off to her for the way she is.

And it is not that the scenes were put in for the heck of it, Priyanka and I are living in together and are a loving couple.... So they are just showing a slice of their life.

What do you think of pre-martial sex in real life?

It is fine... I don’t know why so much hype is created about sex. It is a very natural process. If people are doing it with mutual consent, what’s the big taboo?

What is the first thing that you notice in a woman?

Physical beauty. Much as we may say that physical beauty does not matter, somebody is going to grab your attention with physical beauty. Only after you speak to them will you come to know how good they are in other aspects as well. Physical attraction is the first step towards attraction.

If a girl approaches you, will you ‘label’ her or will you enjoy the attention?

Today, there is no bias against women doing certain things. If a woman is expressing her feeling towards a man and if she is openly coming forward about it, it is commendable. We need women like that...

Have you ever gone up to a woman and said: ‘I’m attracted to you’?

‘I’m attracted to you’ is a very cheesy line I must say. But I have gone up to women and complimented them. Fortunately, the reactions so far have been good. I have not been rebuffed with a curt remark which would put me into a shell.

You have had your fair days of relationships, but you are single right now. Would you call yourself commitment-phobic?

I’m not commitment-phobic but I don’t want to commit myself for the heck of it. I may come across as practical sometimes; but what is the point of giving false hope to someone when you are not going to live up to it? I would rather have a woman come up to me and say: ‘he is commitment-phobic’ than be in a situation where she would say: ‘He is a bas****! He promised this and now see what he is doing.’

Do you believe in marriage?

I believe in marriage if it is not only a social obligation. If two people are ready to share their life with each other, and face each other 24x7, ready to take each other’s responsibility and be loyal to each other, it makes sense. Otherwise, there is no point in spoiling each other’s life. There is no point getting into it because that is something that you have to do, because you are part of the society and then ruining a girl’s life by straying or ruining a guy’s life by not giving him the kind of attention a man requires.

Have you ever thought of cleaning up your house?

Yeah I do so, I’m a very meticulous person. I do all possible things that a woman would do to keep the house clean.

Do you agree with the thought — ‘All relationships have a life span and that life span is not a lifetime’?

Relationships go through different phases. I won’t blame it on both the people. What you think now, you could be looking at the same thing differently 10 years down the line. Change is inevitable in all aspects, so why are we excluding relationships?

Is it possible to be in love with the same woman all your life?

Yeah definitely; but the intensity of love wouldn’t be the same.

Do you think love is linked to finance?

Yes. I remember a friend telling me “Money is not everything… but say this when you have made enough”. He came up with another, even better: “Money is not everything… but it is better to cry in an air conditioned BMW than to cry on a bicycle.”

Is it possible to be friends with your ex?

Yes, why not? It depends upon the level of maturity between the two individuals. I’m friends with a few of my exes; but some of them I hate!