From empowering oneself to the perfect diet for a healthy mind, Brahma Kumari Shivani Verma, inspirational speaker, mesmerised a select audience at Soul Talk By Sister Shivani, organised by YFLO at Taj Bengal. Excerpts...
VIBRATION OF THE MOMENT
These days people are too much interested in clicking pictures. So that one can go back and upload on Facebook and wait for people to like it…. if someone doesn’t like it, they will get disempowered.
Every moment is meant to be experienced in terms of the vibrations we create in that moment. A moment is about radiating vibration, receiving vibration and experiencing the vibration. If we spend that moment clicking a picture, and not experiencing the vibrations of the moment, how can we expect somebody else to like the picture of the moment?
MOTHER VS COUNSELLOR
The first people who come into my energy field is my family… my children. Look at our children today. How many of the schools had a counsellor when we were children? None! Today it is mandatory for a school to have a counsellor. Have we as mothers ever paused and thought, why should my child go and talk to a counsellor and not come and talk to me?
When my child comes to me and shares a mistake, how do I react and how does the counsellor react? Can you see the difference? When the child was small and went to school for the first time, they would come home and tell you everything, but once they grew up they stopped sharing and if you keep asking them, at times they lie. They have password on their phone and laptop too. Same child, same mother and same beautiful relationship, then what has changed?
When they were small, we accepted everything they shared. The day they came and said, mummy I bunked school and went for a movie with friends, they received rejection from us. The child had come to share the truth, the way they always did, but this time when they shared their truth they did not get the same acceptance. Next time they may share that they tried a cigarette, they will again get rejection. When they keep getting rejected, slowly they will stop sharing. We as mothers will think they have stopped doing all this, but the truth is they have not stopped. They are still doing but they have stopped sharing with us. Did we empower our child?
Everyone needs acceptance. Think about ourselves. If you want to share something that is going on in your life with a friend and she immediately rejects you. You again share something and she rejects you again. Third time you will not go and talk to her. When I have a mistake to share and I am in pain, what do I need? Empowerment. I am already depleted because of guilt, fear and pain. This is not the time to reject.
The mother usually tells the child: How did you do this? This is what I taught you in life? What will people say? The counsellor, on the other hand, will say: Koi baat nahin; we will find a way to solve it. This is the difference between a mother and a counsellor.
Is the mother ready to become a counsellor? The counsellor can give advice, but they cannot give the love and power the mother can give. The one thing that a mother needs to do is accept and not judge, for the child to come to her. When I do that, I am using my power to empower, otherwise I am using my power to deplete.
THE WHITE HALO
Have you seen the white circle (halo) behind our prophets and deity’s head, which symbolises aura. It is white because it is pure. Please draw a circle behind your head, aur colour bhi apne aap bharega. This colour will decide what you will do to other people. The quality of your being, thinking, feeling and attitude will decide the colour. If I create anxiety and stress, the colour of my circle will be dark. And if I am a walking radiator of a dark energy, then what am I doing to everybody who is coming in contact with my energy field? If I have to empower other people I have to take my circle towards white. The small things that don’t allow my circle to be white are jealousy, anger, ego, expectation, greed and being judgemental. You have to remove all these words from your energy field. There is only one thing for which you are dependent on no one — how you feel.
RETAIN YOUR POWER
When people or situations are not going my way, it is natural to get angry — this is like a computer program in our mind. How many of you are ready to be the way your husband wants you to be or the way your children want you to be? None! If you want to be your way, then can’t we give them the liberty to be their way?
Just now when I was coming here, the traffic on the road was not going my way. I was told that I will reach here in 15 minutes, but it took me 50 minutes, even though I left on time. Thus, we do everything we can do, but people and situations will not be our way, and when they are not my way, I have a choice whether to retain my power or give my power away. So by getting disturbed I will give my power away. We need to remember, whether it is a small situation like a traffic jam ya jeevan ki kitni bari situation ho, I need power to face the situation and take care of everyone around me. If I say getting disturbed was natural, then I allow myself to give away that power.
HAPPINESS IS....
Achievement is equal to happiness. This is what we are teaching our children today… if you come first in class, we are happy. Our smile changes according to their marks. So, we are telling them, marks is equal to happiness. The second question we ask them is — how much marks have the rest of the students got? So, happiness is not just about my marks, but it is my marks in comparison to other’s marks. Thus, today at the age of 40 and 50, our happiness is equal to our achievement in comparison to other people’s achievement. How can we ever be happy like this, because even if you achieve a lot, someone will always achieve more than you.
The outer world is a very important world to achieve, to grow, to buy and to acquire. The inner world is happiness, love, respect and harmony.
The marketing and advertising agency says, buy this and be happy. This morning I saw a hoarding on some property, which says, your happiness is at this address. The entire business is flourishing on this concept. Buy iPhone 7 to be happy and buy iPhone 8 to be happier. You should buy to use not to be happy.
Happiness is created if I am stable in a traffic jam. Happiness is when your children don’t do things your way and you are stable. Happiness is when your driver does not come on time and you understand and forgive. Every time we react, get disturbed and deplete power, we are giving away our happiness. How we think, feel, speak and behave is entirely our choice. It does not depend on anyone else.
ON A DIET FOR A HEALTHY MIND
How many of you begin the day by reading the newspaper or watching the news channel? This is the simplest way to disempower yourself. Like our physical health is based on what we eat, our mental health depends on what we hear and read. Information is the source for emotional health. If I want to change my way of thinking and stay stable in situations and not react, we have to start taking in the right quality of information first thing in the morning. The difference between our generation when we were kids and the generation of today is information. Our time we only had Doordarshan, look at today’s generation... media and social media….information, information and information! If you want to remain stable, then first thing in the morning nourish yourself with at least 15 minutes to half an hour of positive reading and listening.
In the name of humour and timepass, a lot of things come in our phone. Every time you read something, remember that is what your are going to become. You need to have a strict diet for a healthy mind. Kisi ne pyar se khilaya to bhi nahin khaiye! People will come say... pata hai kya hua, pata hai woh kya bol rahi thi, pata hai aapke baare mein kya bol rahi thi... you should have the power to tell them that you are on a diet.
Malancha Dasgupta
Pictures: Rashbehari Das
