I am a 49-year-old man. My wife is 42. For the last five years she has become extremely religious and does not have any physical relations with me. I am quite frustrated because of this. Should I continue this relationship? Please help me out.
Name and address withheld
There is nothing to help son. You have lost her to God and even I cannot fight God. Nor can the communists. Even Kalmadi could not fight God when he was resisting arrest and we are mere mortals. I suggest you look for another woman for worldly pleasures because this wife of yours has flown the coop or so we hope. Many of these women who stop having sex with their husbands on account of being religious are actually having an affair with some 20-year-old next door so one can never be certain. For your sake I still hope it is God and not some toy boy. Sad but true son.
I am a 15-year-old boy and a single child. I am having problems with my parents regarding my studies. For the past few years I have not been doing well and I get promoted with warnings every single year. My parents, teachers and I feel that I can do much better. I want to be a doctor. Please help.
Name and address withheld
With this wonderful academic track record you want to be a doctor. Why don’t you just opt for the easier way out and become a classified murderer and you won’t even have to study for that? I cannot imagine how a dolt like you, with your feeble intellect, harbours hopes of becoming a doctor. My suggestion is, let some people live and don’t use you vast intellect to make them die earlier than they should.
I am 20 years old. I am in love with a boy who is two years older than me. We grew up together. Even though I have known him for so long, this feeling for him is very new. I did not feel this way about him. How do I tell him?
Shipra, Calcutta
Okay: here are three simple steps: Step 1: find him and be in close proximity to him. Step 2: open your mouth which you must have for other things, roll your tongue and utter the words: I love you. Step 3: wait for his reaction. He will either agree or walk away. Simple?
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