I am a 16-year-old boy and my parents are divorced. My father is in love with a woman, also a divorcee, whose daughter loves me. I love her too and it drives me crazy to think that if my father marries this woman, her daughter would be my sister!
Please help me.
Incest is best son. But be that as it may, never mind, she will ‘never’ be your sister...she will just be an accidental relative and accidental relatives are a far cry better than real ones. And since you are probably your father’s son, you are hardly going to be either guilty or squeamish about this relationship. So, bash on regardless and keep me posted about the seamier side of your affair...
I am a 25-year-old working woman living with my parents. Every month I offer a part of my salary to my parents, which my mother refuses, but father accepts. But somehow, at some point or the other, both of them often accuse me of not contributing towards family expenses. I feel terribly hurt.How should I deal with this?
Just forget it. There is no point in feeling guilty about something you’ve not done. Besides, to expect gratitude from one’s parents is equally daft. I would go on with what I am doing if I were you. Remember, ultimately you have to be at peace with yourself and if you, in your heart, know you have done the right thing, you needn’t lose sleep over what someone says or doesn’t say. Carry on doing what your conscience tells you.
I am a 20-year-old man. I recently found out that my girlfriend is a lesbian. I saw her in a porn video on the Internet. When I confronted her she vehemently denied. What should I do?
I know of many friends who have been in love with a woman they never imagined to be a lesbian. You have done much better: You are not only confronted with a lesbian but one who is a porn star. So, why should you be so worried? She can be a breadwinner and satisfy you too. And yes, you can always rest in the hope that she will never cheat on you with another man. Look at the positive side of things son and then you’ll see the pot of gold you’ve struck with this woman.
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