I am a 16-year-old girl and have been intimate with a number of boys already. However, now that I have truly fallen in love, the guy is not ready to accept me since I have been physically intimate with other guys. But I want him to know that I am a changed person, it was only a bad phase of my life, when I didn’t know what I was doing. Please help.

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Intimate and changed? You darling are like a leopard and those blokes too never change their spots. Look let’s be logical: you don’t know what love is because all your life you’ve indulged in lust. You will have to give yourself a cooling period (no pun intended) until people can actually believe the fact that you’ve changed. It’s easier said than done. As for this bloke you’re in love with, just seduce him and get it over and done with and then start all over again with old-fashioned love. That way, every one will be delighted!

I work in a private bank. A particular customer has become a terror for us. He walks in everytime with a weird problem, demanding solutions. His ways have taken a toll on us. Since I helped him open his account I am the one who most often faces his wrath. He threatens to lodge complaints with higher authorities. How can he be taught a lesson?

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Look you have to deal with a bully like a bully. So, give it right back to him and see how he cowers but then knowing some of the banks as I do, you people actually drive your customers to the brink. I know of several bankers who I would much rather see dead than behind the counters, so frankly until one hears the other side it is all conjecture. Having said that, why don’t you, one day, tell him to write to your bosses and given the fact that your bosses would be even worse in responding, he will slowly shift his anger there and leave you in peace. Simple, right?

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