I am getting married in November to a guy my parents chose for me. Luckily, I have fallen in love with him already and he loves me too. However, I overheard my 16-year-old cousin talking to her best friend and she mentioned having a crush on my husband-to-be. I know she is only a child and it is a passing infatuation. Yet, it’s an upsetting thought. How should I deal with the situation?
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Deal with what? It is utter rubbish. Grow up and get married and consummate your marriage and all will be well....Stop thinking too much. You aren’t Cassius (read Shakespeare ever?) so there is no point in conjuring up scenarios where none exist. And even if she does have a crush, so what? Is your husband a philanderer? If he is, then you shouldn’t be marrying him in the first place. Look this is all hyper baloney. Marry the dolt and get on with your miserable life. Marriage is the first nail in love’s coffin...many shall follow.
My girlfriend’s mother is threatening me with dire consequences if I continue seeing her while my girlfriend is threatening me with the same should I leave her. I am in a fix. What must I do?
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Who are you in love with son? The mother or the daughter? And who are you going to sleep with? The mother or the daughter? Who will you potentially have babies with? The mother or the daughter? So, who on earth should you be listening to, Einstein? The mother or the daughter? You must look dangerously miserable for the mother to feel that way. So, I guess that’s all the more a reason you hang onto the daughter! You aren’t an examination paper with multiple choices, son.
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