I’m a 21-year-old girl. I was in a relationship with a guy for more than a year and a half. But he suddenly started ignoring me and then said he wants to break-up because he doubts my past. I want him to suffer. I want him to realise what he did to me is wrong. He used me and left me when he got bored. Please advise.
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If you really want him to suffer ask him to join the CPI(M) and work with Biman Bose: there will be no greater suffering than that. If you feel that will be too severe a punishment then I suggest you advise him to join Baba Ramdev so that he can first go hungry and then get walloped by the police. If you want something milder, then just ask him to relocate to Ranchi. There can be nothing more that I would suggest.
I am a 24-year-old guy. I have been in a relationship with a girl for seven years. All these years she kept doubting me. She suspected something every time I interacted with any girl or colleague. Even though I gave her all the liberty to chat with her male friends, she never afforded the same to me. Now suddenly my girlfriend says that our thoughts do not match. Her father is also against us being together. He does everything in his power to brainwash her. What should I do?
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Look son, this is the end of the road. You have no future with her so I suggest you convert some of your ‘conversations’ with other girls into more meaningful activity: the tragedy is she never loved you: you were a convenient walking stick but now that she has recovered from her fracture, she doesn’t care, in a manner of speaking. My advice would be to ignore everything she says, take nothing to heart and look at your heart as a scribbled slate: the time is to now wipe it clean. And my eternal advice to all your little lover-boys is, perish the love, and enjoy the lust.
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