I am a 26-year-old woman married for three months now.
My younger sister is only 19 and the most loved in the family. We lost our mother at a very young age and I have looked after her. However, it broke my heart when I realised that she is infatuated with my husband. I know she is only a kid, but I am afraid that my married life will be adversely affected and she will suffer as well. How do I tackle the situation? My husband insists we avoid her completely, but I can’t do that either. What do I do?

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Look, darling, it is better to save a marriage than save a sister who is going berserk. It may also be that you are over-reacting and what to you seems infatuation may just be a passing phase. The other option is that you can help find your sister a lover in the immediate short-term and pray to god that she once again doesn’t stray into your husband’s path. Having said that, I am a bit suspicious about the fact that your husband is telling you to avoid her...something may be brewing so be careful.

I am in love with my father’s friend’s son. I have known him since I was a child and have been in love with him for a long time now. I have not had a chance to confess my love. In fact, I have been afraid of telling him about my feelings in fear of rejection and also because I didn’t know how my parents would react. And as luck would have it, I just came to know that he is getting married. Of course, we have been invited to the wedding. I do not know what to do. I can’t get over the pain. What should I do?

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Listen, love, it is easier for a man to get married given the expenses of such weddings (printing of cards, banqueting and then inviting all the cows to it) than drop everything in favour of a woman who has not even professed her love to him yet.

My advice is go to the wedding and then hunt there. At these weddings there are many singles like us who are equally waiting to prey on women who are either delusional or have just been unwittingly dumped. There is always hope in a marriage pandal.