I am a 19-year-old boy. I have found that my dad watches pornography. I don’t know if he knows that I have caught him doing so, but he continues as soon as mom and I are out of the house. I don’t know, but somehow I feel that he is cheating mom and don’t know how to tell her the truth. Please help.
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Dad watches porn? Wow. Is he an MLA or an MP? I thought only those dolts watched porn but am glad even normal folks are indulging in this healthy exercise. As for cheating on your mum, my advice would be not to worry. You don’t eat every dish you see, so give him the benefit of doubt and let him carry on.
I am a 17-year-old girl. A few years ago I met a guy and we became the best of friends. But I started developing feelings for him and told him so. But he was already in a relationship. I tried to move on in life, but we were still in contact. He still cares for me and is also possessive and protective about me. Now, my feelings for him that had remained all these years are back in full force and I can’t move on. Please help.
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There is nothing I can do where feeble minds are concerned and yours is a feeble mind my child. Just dump him and move on. Find someone else. We are a hugely populated country so there will be no dearth of men.
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