Bridge from lost to found
Far removed from political jingoism and posturing, individual efforts are afoot to make whole a splintered Kashmiriness, says Sonia Sarkar
- Published 8.04.18
As Facebook pages go, Raabta is fairly basic. A stack of cards in muted colours, the image of a bench emblazoned on each - stark, awaiting its occupants - and jottings upon jottings. In some cases, as the written word spills onto the screen, an audio clip comes alive. Clang, clang, clang, the rabab quivers with emotion, and its soulful notes falling on alien ears seem to emanate from a sad hollow core.
Raabta might mean connection in Urdu, but this page, launched earlier this year, is about lost connections and old yearnings.
The community page for Kashmiris describes itself sans specifics thus - "...a small endeavour to help search and reconnect old friends, neighbours, school mates, colleagues who haven't heard from each other in three decades." Gurgaon-based Jaibeer Ahmad, who is from Kashmir, launched it. Ahmad, however, tells The Telegraph, "This page is only to reconnect those who parted ways in 1990 and reconnect them."
One post is about Chennai-based Samir Pandita who has been looking for his teacher these past 35 years. "My favourite teacher was Mohammed Sayed from Bon-Bhawan Mattan... I am not sure where he is currently." An S.A. Wahid is looking for classmates Vijay Pandita and Ajay Bhat. He has put out as much detail as he could summon from memory - Vijay lived in a rented house next to Regina cinema, Ajay was from old town Baramulla. More details. Someone is looking for a Vinod Kumar who used to live at Dharkocha near Temple Khankah-i-sokta between Safa Kadal and Nawa Kadal. There is an Anamika from Canada looking for childhood friend Saeba. Someone else looking for a third son "just born in a different house".
When old connections are re-established, those experiences are posted too. A day after Pandita posted his message, his teacher was traced. "We spoke for over 30 minutes on the phone, recalled the school days and caught up with each other's lives," says Pandita, who is now a general manager with a chain of hotels. Dubai-based media professional Sameer Bhat connected with neighbour Arun Koul. "Nearly 28 years later when he said 'hello' over the phone, I could immediately recognise the voice. He was unmistakably Bunty bya [that's how Kashmiris pronounce bhaiyya meaning brother]." He adds, "The first thing Bunty bya asked, 'Do you still wear a watch on your right hand.' He remembered." Others recall with fondness, shared feasts, a tumble in the snow, the sheen mohnuv or the snowman.
Meanka Handu, another Kashmiri Pandit who left Srinagar in April 1990, is also trying to reconnect with her homeland, but through humour. The IT professional based in the National Capital Region's Noida area has started a YouTube channel called "Asvun Koshur", which means "smiling, happy Kashmiri". Asvun Koshur contains a series of family-oriented comic video monologues presenting unknown aspects of Kashmiri culture and language. Though Handu keeps switching between Hindi and Kashmiri, the humour eludes translation. But it has traction within the Kashmiri community. The channel to date has 10,000 followers. A lot of elderly people from Kashmir watch her videos. Says Handu, "Language is a common thread that binds us, Kashmiris, regardless of our faith and individual beliefs."
Raabta and Asvun Koshur are celebrations of a holistic Kashmiriness. Post the outbreak of militancy in the Valley, there was a mass exodus of Kashmiri Pandits. It has almost three decades since, but Pandits continue to ache for the land they had to leave perforce. Kashmiri Muslims stayed on, but life as they knew it changed. While steering clear from all talk of who is to blame for what and who fared the worse, Ahmad and Handu seem to be attempting a social corrective in the interest of Kashmiriyat.
Amit Wanchoo, a Pandit who lives in Srinagar's Jawahar Nagar, talks about the syncretic culture of the Valley that was. He says, "Pandits ate the halal meat as did Muslims. Before a wedding, a Kashmiri Pandit would seek blessings of the eldest Muslim neighbour and vice versa." The two communities, apparently, celebrated a series of festivals together. In fact, as a nod to this, Ahmad launched Raabta on Herath or Shiv Ratri.
Some years ago, Wanchoo also started an initiative called Salaam Mahara - that's how Kashmiri Muslims greet Pandits. It tries to bridge the gap between the two communities. Last year, a programme called Ikwaith or coming together was organised on Eid. This March, another one was organised on Kashmiri new year, Navreh. He organises cultural shows, sponsors trips of Pandit students from Jammu to visit Srinagar and live with locals in camps. "This is how we plan to change the narratives and bridge the gaps between two communities," says Wanchoo, whose grandfather was killed by militants in 1992.
Bridging the gap is what Delhi-based singer Pragnya Wakhlu is doing too. In one of her songs, titled Henzay - Returning to Peace, she has tried to fuse the Butta and Musalman wanwuns or Hindu and Muslim musical styles. In 2017, she released a Kashmiri-English album, Kahwa Speaks. In the title track, kahwa is the metaphor for Kashmir. She says, "Just as kahwa is made of saffron, cinnamon and cardamom, the fragrance of each coming together to make a wonderful brew, life in Kashmir is beautiful when all the communities come together."
Raabta founder Ahmad wants to start a campaign next - to reconnect erstwhile neighbours in the Valley, "beyond the virtual world". He says, "The tagline would be - do you miss your neighbour."