My parents fixed my marriage six months ago. My fiancé and I have been seeing each other frequently since. In fact, I’ve fallen in love with him. But recently my father had a disagreement with his father and they have decided to call the marriage off. What do I do now?
Name and address withheld
Nothing. If you love the man, go ahead. Your father is not marrying him. You are. And who knows your father won’t fight with your next man’s Dad. Just don’t leave a good thing for the sake of an insane Dad. You have to live with your man and not your family. If however, your Dad has fought with that chap’s father over dowry or some silly thing like that, then dump the bloke but if not, then go ahead.
I am a 36-year-old woman in love with a man seven years younger, for three years now. But every time I broach the subject of marriage he avoids it. Recently, I came to know that his parents are looking for a match for him. What should I do?
Name and address withheld
Dump him. This is the Graduate Syndrome. You are feeling good because he is young and he is feeling around. Let the bloke go because he is obviously a commitment-phobe and such men are wimps and will never settle down unless of course his parents cut off his money supply. Why would you want to be with a dolt like him in the first place? He is stringing you along darling and you need to cut that string off immediately.
Three months ago I met a man online for whom I gradually developed a soft corner. However, I stopped talking to him after meeting him because I doubted his ways. He hasn’t taken this too well. He has found out where I live. I have seen him outside my house many a times. He sends me threatening messages. I can’t tell anyone at home. What do I do?
Name and address withheld
Just tell the cops. And if all else fails, tell Mamata di and watch how the guy will fear for his life. Let these blighters not feel you are scared or else they will take undue advantage of you and that is seriously not worth it. Show him up to be the lout that he is. If you want, give me his name and I will make his life twitter-hell. This is the only way you can teach these fellows an enduring lesson.
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