My wife was brainwashed by her beautician into having sex with a man. He recorded the entire incident on his phone and is blackmailing her now. Should I divorce her?
Name and address withheld
Brainwashed into sexual intercourse? Does she go for a hairwash to a beauty salon or a brainwash? And by the way is it a salon or a bordello? Where on earth are these goddamn salons? Why do I have to go to some crusty, fuddy-duddy one? Look son, blackmail is hardly your worry. Your wife is no Poonam Pandey that we’ll be waiting with bated breath to see her in the buff. You should worry about her and her morals. If I were you, I’d get rid of her. I don’t mean kill her but just gently divorce her and now with that recording you won’t even need to pay alimony.
I’m 25. I was in love with a 30-year-old man but things didn’t work out and he married someone else. He is divorced now. I want to go back to him. I know he needs me.
Shalini, Guwahati
Look my little compassionate soul, just perish the thought. Only squash balls should be allowed on the rebound, not relationships. My suggestion would be move on and get some other bloke. You are only 25. You have miles to go and many men to bed so why would you hitch your bandwagon to some used product? Look around and see the kind of men that are available: far better than this man of yours will be. Besides, if you do go back to him, he will treat you like a doormat because he will know you are desperate. Why would you want to show that side too?
I’m 21. I love a girl in my tuition class. I wrote her a letter but she refused me. I can’t imagine life without her. How can I get her?
Name and address withheld
Look son, let me put this as bluntly as I can. Please start imagining life without her because she has clearly imagined life without you and then please start looking for some new addresses to post letters to. That is the only way. It is clear she detests you; she thinks you are an incurable romantic lout, or worse still, a pathetic letter writer so you haven’t scored on any front. What’s more, you’ve met her at a tuition class so she knows you are pretty retarded too. You don’t have a hope in hell with her. So move on. Sadly, you don’t have any other choice.
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