I am 23-year-old woman in a relationship with a 24-year-old man for six years now. He loves me a lot and does everything for me, but, at times, I feel his football and friends are more important to him. I don’t know how to deal with this because I know he loves me but this habit of his worries me. Help.
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Listen darling never disengage a Bengali man from football and friends. He will be forlorn and either have rampant sex with you, cheat on you or go into severe depression. Bengali men are refined and love their Maidan and their adda, so let him be. You are lucky he doesn’t do drugs or belong to the Trinamool Congress. Let sleeping dogs lie. Please.
I am a 19-year-old in Class 12 and broke up with my 18-year-old girlfriend last month. She has told me categorically not even to try to talk to her. Because of my insecurities I had tried to restrict what she could and could not do and I realise sometimes it was wrong. But I really want to be with her now as the break-up is affecting my studies. Please help.
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It is over son. As over as the Congress. So forget her and move on swiftly. Given the kind of miserable sod you are, this is not the last time you are going to be dumped so also start preparing for a life laced with sadness. There is nothing any one can do to help you. This column is your only solace and now you’ve exhausted this avenue as well.
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