I am 23 and a Facebook addict. I have been chatting with a girl, online, for over a year now and I have developed strong feelings for her. In the past she too dropped hints that led me to believe that the feelings are mutual. But once I mustered the courage to express my feelings and acted upon it, she flew off the handle and stopped talking to me. She is not only ignoring me but has also removed me from her friends list. I feel lost. What do I do now?

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Just find another friend on Facebook. As simple. Or better still, try and be a little bit more articulate or gather better intelligence about who you are in communication with. I have a very dear friend who professed love to this girl for a whole month, listened to Rafi songs with her, held her hand amongst other things until the night before she was leaving for Canada, she upped some courage and told him she was a lesbian. Now that cannot be a happy feeling!

I am a 31-year-old man in love with my 13-year-old student. I consider her my soulmate. She loves me too but insists that I wait for another five years, that is, until she turns 18. However, the age difference haunts me, as I know it will pose a major problem to our future together. Her family respects me, considering I am her teacher but they are not likely to warm up to the idea of marrying their daughter to someone so much older than she is. I am ready to wait but even then our future seems bleak. I am at my wits’ end. Please help me.

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Help you? You are goddamning insane and by the way, where the hell are you teaching? They need to lock you up in the closest school cupboard. How on earth can you even think of what you are thinking? Soulmate? You are such a dolt that you probably can’t even spell soul or certainly not understand what the soul is all about? Have you ever heard of paedophilia, son? Well I suggest you do and prepare yourself for a long time in prison...hopefully in the same cell as A. Raja...        

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