I am an 18-year-old boy and I am in love with a 16-year- old girl. You might find that perfectly normal but the problem is that the girl in question is a domestic help who has been working in our house for three months now. She is very pretty, efficient and is already my mother’s pet. But if my mother ever comes to know about my forbidden attraction she will throw the girl out. In fact, I think she has started to suspect something already. The girl is innocent and knows nothing about my feelings. What must I do?

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If you can endure your mother’s wrath, then go for it. I know of several people who have been fascinated by their domestic help because their wives have begun to resemble grazing cows, but what is ‘your’ excuse son? Aren’t there any single women around who are not exactly working in your home? I don’t want to sound class conscious but then what you are doing is not exactly normal and we are a punishing society. There is, however, one way you can distract yourself: start playing poker and that might help. I know of several people who do and only a handful of them get arrested. Trust me, from what I am told, it is great fun.

I am a 14-year-old boy and I am in love with my brother’s girlfriend. My brother will beat me to a pulp if he comes to know. What must I do?

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What do you think you dolt? Obviously stay away if you don’t want to be whipped. On the other hand, if you want to be estranged from your brother for at least six months, then go ahead and pursue that woman and keep me posted as to ‘how’ he beats the crap out of you. That would make for some great reading...       

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