The Telegraph
| Sunday, September 15, 2013 |


Survival Strategies

Suhel Seth has an unconventional take on personal problems — and their solutions

My girlfriend of two years is on the verge of breaking up our relationship and her only explanation is "You deserve better." Had she had any particular complaint I could have convinced her that it would be alright. But then her excuse is such that it's driving me up the wall. She is not listening to anything I have to say. Do you think there's more to it than what meets the eye?

Name and address withheld

Obviously. This is like the Food Security Bill. It will fill your appetite but keep you hungry, asking for more. She is way too clever for you son. You are better off being with Mayawati and the likes of her. This woman will have you for breakfast and you won't even know when she burps. My suggestion is flee immediately (in any case you've been dumped) and look for new and less demanding pastures.

My husband suspects that I am having an affair with his cousin, just because we went to college together and are very close. He has stopped going to their place and has asked me to stay away from him. He behaves in an awkward manner whenever he meets this cousin, even in social functions and family get-togethers. It is extremely embarrassing, since most of our relatives have caught a whiff of this and make fun of us behind our back. How do I show him reason?

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There is no way you can show any reason. Most cousins are incestuous so I don't blame your husband. Why on earth should you keep riling your husband? And if he behaves badly with his cousin, it is HIS problem and not yours. Don't try being the great reconciler of the human faith. Dump his cousin and retrieve whatever little is left of your
miserable marriage.


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