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Monday , September 24 , 2012
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In a knot over finding the right bride

- Girls few at matchmaking event, blame on education, skewed sex ratio

Looking for a suitable bride? Well, there are not too many, especially in the Agarwal community.

Blame it on the skewed sex ratio or the changing tastes of prospective brides, the matchmaking session organised by social organisation Agarwal Sabha on Sunday drew lukewarm response from girls of the community.


Only 22 women registered for the 20th edition of the event held at Agrasen Bhavan while the number of interested men was 55.

No wonder, the organisers and also the prospective grooms, who came from Chhattisgarh, Bengal, Odisha and Jharkhand, were disappointed. “I am not sure I will find a suitable match here, as the girls who have registered, do not fit my criteria. There isn’t too many choices either,” said a businessman from Ramgarh district Arun Kumar (35), who had come with his parents.

Kumar’s mother Bimla Agarwal also made her displeasure known. “Yahan to ladkiya dikh hi nahi rahi hain (There are hardly any girls here),” she said.

Of the 22 women, three were physically challenged, three divorcees, three widows and one deaf and mute.

Members of Agarwal Sabha also voiced their concern. They cited a few reasons for the lack of interest among girls, the major one being increased awareness and better education. According to them, a majority of girls of the community were on the lookout for better life partners as most of the men who registered for the matchmaking session were from rural areas.

Bhagchand Poddar, convener and founder-secretary of Agrawal Sabha, said: “In the past, girls of our community were married off just after they completed their matriculation. Now, they are allowed to study more while boys still prefer to join the family business without completing their basic education. Naturally, they would not want to marry such men.”

He also spoke about the skewed sex ratio.

Quite evidently, the girls and their relatives were not happy with the men. “Yahan par hum logo ko koi dhang ka ladka nahi dikh raha hain (We are not getting any good guy here),” rued Pramod Agarwal, uncle of Neelam Agarwal (35) of Lohardaga.

Dolly Agarwal (29) of Bokaro said she was attending the session on her parents’ request. “If I don’t get anyone suitable, they will allow me to marry as per my choice.”