Today she runs a non-profit organisation in Florida that rescues women from domestic violence, but in another life, Somy Ali was just a girl with a Bollywood crush — and a girl on a mission.
And so, in 1992, at the startlingly young age of 15, she moved from Miami to Mumbai with one goal: to marry Bollywood megastar Salman Khan. At 15, you have a licence to be stupid, recalls Somy. I had a crush, and I thought in order to meet him, Id have to join films. So I did.
She makes it look just that simple. Despite having moved to Florida from Pakistan at a young age, Somy somehow persuaded her father to send her to India under the pretext of wanting to experience the culture. She had celebrated photographer Gautam Rajadhyaksha shoot her portfolio, and was approached by Dharmendras agent in a hotel lobby, asking to screen-test her for a project designed to launch his son Bobby Deol.
To call what happened next serendipity would be an understatement — Somy says Salman himself randomly chanced upon her photographs at a modelling agency, and he called her, offering her a role in his next film.
I was a silly teenager, it was very surreal to go after something thousands of miles away and have it actually happen, she says.
Somy acted in nine films during the 1990s, most of them big-scale but forgettable duds like Andolan, Yaar Gaddar and Aao Pyar Karen, and opposite actors such as Sanjay Dutt, Om Puri and Saif Ali Khan. But her focus was always Salman Khan. I had zero interest in being an actress; you can see that by seeing my films, she says. I was madly in love with him.
Salman broke up with then-girlfriend Sangeeta Bijlani to date Somy, and the two were together for eight years… until Salman then allegedly moved on to Aishwarya Rai. It was probably karma for me — I was so engrossed and selfish about my dream that Id ignored the fact that he was with someone else. It was so wrong, ethically and morally, but I realised this at 35, not at 16, Somy says.
And if I had not broken up with him and come to America, I would have married him and been unhappy.
When Somy moved back to Florida in 2000, she was severely depressed for a year and unsure about her future. She graduated with a degree in psychology from Nova Southeastern University and went on to study film-making in New York, then immersed herself in activism and producing documentaries, including one on Pakistani gang rape victim Mukhtaran Mai. She aspired to found a non-profit organisation, but had too many causes to choose from.
I wanted to help animals and children and plants and everything, I wanted to help every being, she says. It was scattered.
Then a Bangladeshi woman living five houses down from her showed up at her door, bleeding badly. She told Somy shed been beaten for 10 years, and her father-in-law had just raped her. Somy called police and helped her get an apartment and paid for her divorce attorney. The woman has since graduated from nursing school, and Somy carries her graduation picture in her wallet.
My brother told me, this is a sign. Why dont you help women who are brought to the US from different countries and are abused by their husbands?
And so No More Tears was born. The organisation partners with area police departments, top-notch attorneys, therapists, optometrists, dentists, physicians, and even spas. They offer English classes and driving lessons, a range of services to help get victims back on their feet.
Knowing that many of the women she wanted to save were only let out of the house to go grocery shopping, Somy posted fliers at various ethnic markets, which led to her first case, a Jordanian woman, in 2008. She wanted to study, and her husband said no, your job is to cook, clean, and produce children, Somy recalls.
When she went to rescue her with a police officer, the woman had been locked in a room and fainted because she hadnt seen sunlight in three months. Last year, thanks to the assistance provided by No More Tears, she graduated with a doctorate in pharmacy. It was the proudest day of my life, Somy says. Today, No More Tears has rescued 175 victims of domestic violence.
But now Somy finds herself at a crossroads, with funds dangerously low. Ive put $286,000 of my own money into No More Tears, and its depleted, she says. Theres no paid staff, no one on salary, just interns and volunteers; 100 per cent of the money goes to the victims. Were struggling very badly financially. Id hate to see No More Tears shut down. Somy encourages people to donate via the website and pledge even as little as $10 a month.
Have any of her former Bollywood contacts helped her cause? Salmans friends donated $150,000 last year, she says. He and I are friends now, weve moved past what happened, and hes very supportive of No More Tears.
One cant help but wonder if theres any personal history thats led to domestic violence being dear to Somys heart. One Bollywood tale, of Salman allegedly smashing a Coke bottle on Somys head, is now part of gossip folklore.
But Somy is quick to jump to his defence. I was out with some friends and had a rum and Coke; he felt I was in wrong company and didnt want me drinking, so he poured it on the table, she clarifies.
Now I think he did the right thing. But a media guy blew it out of proportion. It went from one thing to another, that he broke the bottle on my head, that he dumped it on my head, but he just poured it on the table and said, You shouldnt be drinking. Hes just overprotective, thats how Salman is in relationships.
He has the most generous heart Ive ever seen. He will give the shirt off his back to someone, she continues. In my teenage years if I learned a lot about being good and doing good, I learned it from him and his family. He was beyond wonderful to me… aside from the cheating, she adds as an afterthought.
Somy has not returned to India since the break-up that ended her tryst with Bollywood. I dont really have a reason to go back, she says. I dont think Im ready. I need to make No More Tears a little more established first. My women and children need me here.
As far as whether shed ever consider a comeback: Never. It was fun, an amazing experience, but I just cant compare it to what Im doing now, she said. Every day is like a movie here at No More Tears.