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I am a 19-year-old girl. My parents separated couple of years back. I stay with my mother. I have been in a relationship for the past two years. Though he claims to be in love with me, he is attracted to other girls. I am thinking of breaking up with him. My mother is scared that if we break up, people are going to blame it on my family history. What should I do?

Name and address withheld

Nothing. Forget family history because if you do get married and then break-up, it will still be family history, right? You are trying to sort out your life and not write or re-write history. This man is a scoundrel like most men are. So run while you can and to hell with your mother's feelings about family history.

I am a 21-year-old girl. I have been in love with a man for the past six years. We recently broke up and I can’t get him out of my mind. I am very troubled and cannot concentrate on anything. Please help.

Aliya, via e-mail

Since you’ve broken up, there is no point in me saying try and live with him. The best thing is to forget him quickly by having a steamy affair with someone. The best way in these things is to move ahead without a care for morals. This to my mind is the best way forward.

Few years back, I was attracted to my sister and suggested to her that we get intimate. She not only refused but also told about the entire incident to our parents. Since then my parents attitude towards me has changed drastically . Was it wrong on my part to ask her for some fun?

Biswanath, via e-mail

Obviously. Are you a goddamn idiot or have your brains been fried by overdosing? What do you think your parents are going to feel? Tell me? You have asked your sister to sleep with you and you think it’s a normal thing. Even tribals and Mayawati’s kin would never suggest this and here you are, supposedly educated who is trying this and hoping it works. I am glad they ignore you. They should have thrown you out of the house long ago.


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