Young at heart

He is turning 50 in a few months, but Bobby Deol barely shows signs of age catching up with him. It’s just not he is fitter than ever — his youthful appeal works beyond that. Maybe that’s because he is young at heart, or treated like one at home.

By Noyon Jyoti Parasara
  • Published 12.09.18
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Bobby Deol

He is turning 50 in a few months, but Bobby Deol barely shows signs of age catching up with him. It’s just not he is fitter than ever — his youthful appeal works beyond that. Maybe that’s because he is young at heart, or treated like one at home.

His equation with elder brother, Sunny, has often interested people. People talk about the Deol family and their ways and how they seem to have managed to keep the quiet normality of a regular middle-class family despite being part of Bollywood.

Around father, Dharmendra, both sons are the demure heroes made popular in Rajshri films. And around Sunny, Bobby behaves no differently. Is he scared? Some people like to believe so. But Bobby says: “I am not scared of my father or my brother. I respect them. My brother treats me like his son. And because he treats me like a son I have to be like that…” even as Sunny sits a few metres away.

Like a father would, Sunny took great care and interest in Bobby’s development, especially his studies. “I used to get beaten up by my mother. Bhaiya slapped me once, that’s it. I cried so much that he never did it again,” he reveals, adding that the episode happened because he was not taking his studies seriously.

Bobby is pretty much a changed man now, having gone through his own ups and downs. He admits that education was important and was happy that his children were focussed on it. He says he also tries to be a father who is approachable. “With my children, I have tried to be not so difficult. Growing up I have seen how I found it difficult to communicate… But then a father-child relationship is like that. They tend to talk to the mother, and less with the father.”

Interestingly, his children, Aryaman, 17, and Dharam, 14, remind Bobby of his age. “I consider myself young. Except when I see my kids. I am a grown-up now. My son is taller than I am. And that’s when I realise I am a grown up,” he chuckles.

He is also a changed man when it comes to his career. Working on his second innings in Bollywood, he said: “I am positive that I will get something good. I don’t want to do something that takes me back to where I was. I am just hoping my choices are right this time.” In that, he ends up showing the grown-up side to him — far different from an impulsive young man who did films that never quite made sense.