Apropos the article “Problem child”, published on February 1, the behavioural pattern of children can often be freakish, if not unbearable. And it’s mostly the parents — the mother in particular — who have to tackle the child with compassionate care to make him disciplined, loving and loveable.
This is undoubtedly a challenging job. Yet, the child has to be handled even if it means making a few personal sacrifices.
In William Shakespeare’s “The Seven Ages of Man”, the growth of a child is interestingly but instructively described. It’s the duty of parents to groom and train them according to the demands of the situation and environment. We mustn’t forget that a child is a fast learner. We need to behave with them the way they like us to. They are likely to share with us the warmth of every moment we spend with them.
As for myself, I normally don’t put pressure on my child to do anything. Instead, I see to it that his wants and wishes are duly complied with in which case he is found to be both receptive and responsive. At the same time, I hardly miss out on making him do, in case he refuses to do so, the essential work that determines his future growth into a responsible citizen.
Psychological counselling apart, it’s a balanced mixture of tender care and stringent disciplining that helps children realise gradually that parents are really their most important friends and guides.
I have been a teacher cum child counsellor since 2000 and it has been a rewarding experience.
I have come to understand that a mother is a child’s biggest necessity. She has to dedicate herself to him completely till he is three years old. A child knows just his parents and family members and his mother’s presence is important to him.
The mother has to be emotionally stable, physically fit and open to new ideas and opinions. She has to spend quality time with the child and teach him moral ethos, individuality and self-belief. Parents should appreciate the innocence of a child and not put pressure on him to compete with his peers.
It is important to understand that a child needs his space. His elders must make him feel accepted, wanted and loved. The mother plays the biggest role in achieving this.
In the article “Our best food forward”, published on February 22, a family platter of garlic bread and a four-piece platter at Salt & Pepper cost Rs 180 and 95 respectively. The error is regretted.