Survival Strategies
Suhel Seth has an unconventional take on personal problems — and their solutions
I am 26 years old. My husband died a couple of years ago leaving me with my three-year-old son. My parents want to me to marry a second time and I agreed after much consideration. In fact, they have also looked for a match for me. The man in question seems like a good person and is ready to accept my son in his life. But I doubt if his family would treat my son well. What must I do?
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Look darling, your son needs a father. Not an entire commune. So if the man is willing to treat your son like his own, then to hell with the rest. And remember, they are going to die before you will unless of course you join the Trinamul Congress or the CPI(M). So why bother about the whole family? My suggestion is, get married and get peace back in your life though marriage and peace is an enduring paradox. But give it a shot.
The last husband died but this one, you can at least divorce if he gets irksome.
Three years ago a man broke my heart and married someone else. Now he has come back saying that he could never forget me and that his marriage is almost over. What should I do now? I still have feelings for him and I'm falling weak.
Name and address withheld
He is a rascal and stay far away from him. If it took him three years to realise he loves you and then dump his wife, can you imagine what a rogue he is. These are the guys who keep all their options open and when they have dumb cows such as you willing to graze the same grass all over again, they score and you lose.
I would tell him to go to hell and sort my life out. There are far too many men out there. Just go for a walk around the Lakes and you will know what I am talking about.
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