I am a 28-year-old homemaker with a five-year-old son. I recently fell in love with a man a year younger to me. We have been in a physical relationship for a while now. I am afraid to tell my husband about my lover and don’t want to lose either of them. What should I do?

Name and address withheld

Darling if your husband is such a dolt that he can’t make out his wife is doing someone else other than him, then why spoil things? And besides, you aren’t Gandhi. So why this emotional drama about you being in a dilemma? You are having the best of both worlds: lust and love so why are you complaining love. Now do you know why I am still a bachelor? I too could have had a wife like you. So while I would pay the bills, she would be spending magical moments in someone else’s arms. Women… god!

I am a 14-year-old girl madly in love with a 16-year-old boy. Recently he has asked me some very embarrassing questions all of which I answered. But now I am regretting it. I am beginning to feel that he does not love me and is only interested in making out with me. I also feel that he is a pervert to have asked me such questions. I don’t want to break up, but would like to avoid such situations. I am very confused. What should I do?

Shruti, Calcutta

Listen darling, what do you expect a 16-year-old boy who is just entering manhood to do? And especially if the guy is normal and not gay? Obviously he will want to make out with you. He doesn’t want to discuss robotic engineering or for that matter the health of your mother. He is dying to seduce you and get it over with. Now you have a choice in the matter. Either you make out with him, or just keep writing silly letters like this to me. My advice is wait till you are 18 and then go for it. There is no point in being hypocrites: you too are dying to make out with him !

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