I am a 45-year-old woman. My husband is five years younger to me. We have been married for the last 15 years and it’s been a peaceful affair. However, recently I have lost interest in sex. I am scared that the relationship may fall apart and he might cheat on me. Please help.

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Just regain interest in sex, my love. Go and meet some sexologist or just watch horror films at night and you will regain your sexuality. Look, this is a column to help people come over stuff. Not a column intended to replace Viagra. I hope you get the drift, love?

I am a 40-year-old unmarried man. I work in a bank. Till now I have never been interested in marriage. Recently, a 23-year-old woman has joined our office. And I have fallen in love with her and want to marry her. But is it fair to approach her despite the age difference?

Name and address withheld

Do that math, Mr Bank Teller. What do you think? I believe she is too young and given your employment status, you don’t even have the money to keep her distracted and from the way you write, you are no Rushdie either who can keep swinging from one young babe to another. I suggest you spend the rest of your life balancing the ledger because I doubt if any woman will find a worm like you attractive unless of course she needs a loan for a tubewell!

I am a 29-year-old with an MBA degree. Though I am working in in a finance firm, I want to start a business soon. I am not happy working under anyone. However, my parents feel it’s better to be in a job rather than run a business. Due to family opposition, I am not being able to do what I want to. What should I do?

Name and address withheld

Your parents are right. They gave birth to you and they know how competent you are. In this, they have already pronounced you a loser so I suggest you stick to the job you have; grow up a little and then start your own business and yes, we do not want to know what you plan to do because that will get me into depression!

HELP AT HAND

Alcoholics anonymous

10A, Nandan Road, Near Ganja Park, Calcutta - 25
Ph: 24191174
E-mail: aakolkata_ig03@rediffmail.com
For free help on alcoholism
Timings: 2.00 p.m. to 6 p.m.
Mondays through Saturdays

Narcotics anonymous (Kolkata area helpline)

Self-help group of recovering addicts
Ph: 9836223071
Website: www.nakolkata.org
Email: info@nakolkata.org

Lifeline Foundation

Ph: 2463 7401/ 2463 7432
Free tele helpline for the depressed, distressed or suicidal.
Timings: 10 a.m. to 6 p.m.
Monday through Saturdays

Society for positive atmosphere & related support to hiv/aids (sparsha)

AE-36, Rabindra Pally, PO: Prafulla Kana, Calcutta — 01
Ph: 2591 0334, 2591 3852, 6529, 9856
Free tele-counselling and one-on-one counselling on personal relationships and HIV/ AIDS
Timings: 10 a.m. to 6 p.m.
Mondays through Fridays

Pronam

38/1, Beltala Road,Calcutta -19
Senior Citizen’s Emergency Co-ordination Control Room
Ph: 24190740

Teenline (cini-yuva)

Telecounseling and one-on-one counselling on sex and sexuality, emotional and career problems.
By appointment only
Phone no.: 2461 1463
Mondays through Saturdays
(10 a.m. to 5 p.m. )