Siya of Kandlakhera is dazzling in a bright magenta lehenga and all her wedding finery. Escorted by her uncle and father-in-law three hours after her marriage, she climbs the stairs to Jalpaji Mandir, situated on a hillock off Jaipur Road, 5 km from here. Her husband holds her by the hand tightly, lest she runs after a priest distributing coconut kernels among devotees.
Obeying her uncle’s orders, she sits before the deity. “Be happy. May God bless you both with a long and fruitful married life,” the head priest chants even as the bride eyes white sugar balls kept as an offering for the goddess. In less than three minutes, the puja is over.
There is a long queue of newly-weds. The priest hurriedly hands the bride a piece of coconut, which she practically snatches off his hand, her eyes longing for more. “Next,” the priest yells.
But the bride is not satisfied with the ceremony. “I want to ring the bell,” she pleads. Her husband can just about reach for the huge brass bells hanging before the deity. But the bride can’t. She is less than three feet tall and seven years old.
The husband is duty-bound. Karan Singh (14) of Narsinghgarh holds up his wife so she can reach for the gong.
Siya and Karan were not the only children who tied the knot yesterday. Thousands of children, some only two years old, were married off in Mandsaur, Shajapur, Rajgarh, Guna and other districts of west Madhya Pradesh bordering Rajasthan. All down National Highway 12, tractors carried baraats to girls’ houses.
And in most cases a little boy with a garland round his neck sat beside the driver. He was the
groom.
The state administration is unhappy with this annual affair of thousands of child marriages held on Akshaye Tritiya. Hindus believe weddings can take place throughout the day and there is no need to look up the Hindu calendar for the right time.
Thursday was this year’s Akshaye Tritiya. Like every year for the past six years, the state government distributed pamphlets — particularly in Rajgarh district which holds chief minister
Digvijay Singh’s Assembly constituency and his brother Laxman Singh’s Lok Sabha constituency — educating people about punishments that might follow reports of child marriages.
According to the Sharda Act of 1929, parents who get their minor wards married could be punished with three months imprisonment and a fine.
If the groom is more than 18 years old but less than 21, he can be sentenced to 15 years of imprisonment and/or a fine up to Rs 10,000.
Here, however, no one is scared of the law. This may be because they know that, with the prevailing electoral equations, no government or political party can afford to take action against child marriages in these areas.
Whether it is the Congress government led by Digvijay Singh or the Opposition BJP, no one advocates police action to stop child marriages.
Most child marriages take place within the Tawar Rajput community, which includes several sects of backward Rajput classes like the Dangis, Sondhiyas and Lodhas. These three sects comprise more than one-third of the voting population in Rajgarh Lok Sabha constituency.
Most marriages among the Gujjars and Yadavs in these areas are also child marriages.
“This is common in the bordering areas of Rajasthan. No one thinks child marriage is crime here,” says an administration officer in Rajgarh.
“Child marriages are a part of the centuries-old tradition. Sudden police action and arresting people for getting minor children married might result in chaos and violence,” says the officer.
“My son is only 10 years old and I have had to search high and low for a girl. Finally, I got one two years older than him,” says Bhagat Singh Gujjar of Lakshmanpura village. “If he doesn’t marry now, when should he marry? When his friends are getting their sons married?”
Hiralal Tawar, the panchayat pradhan of Madhapura, says he got his sons married when they were 10 to 13 years old.
“I know the law says you cannot get your son married before he is 21. But if I wait for my son to be 21 there will be no girl left for him. At best, we might pay a lot of money to a girl’s father and get him to divorce her husband and marry my son or, maybe, get a widow for him. Which father wants his son to be married to someone else’s wife?” Tawar asked.
Akshaye Tritiya is not the only day for child marriages. According to Tawar, 25 child couples will be married at a ceremony
on May 2 at Bakiapura near Piraudi.
The only solution, according to the state education department, is literacy.
According to the Rajiv Gandhi Siksha Mission, the rate of literacy for women in these areas in 1991 was 15 per cent. It is 37 per cent in 2001.